Friday, December 11, 2009

Have A Great(ful) Day

Christmas is not my season.

First, there's the shopping.  I do hate shopping.  Already I've mistakenly double-ordered from Amazon, over-spent at REI, and dragged my feet too long to get a must-have item on a loved one's list.  Ugh.

Then there's the clutter.  Christmas decorations make sense to me for about two days...then they become visual background noise that ultimately confuses and irritates me.  But, I'll be racing out for a Christmas tree today, because I'm afraid if I let the weekend pass, all the good trees will be gone.  Double ugh.

Stir in the call of the Faithful to set aside time to anticipate and wait with patience for The Holy, throw in the expectation that all human contact will be full of comfort and joy, add a heaping helping of the Martha Stewart inspired dream of gingerbread in every oven and fresh evergreen boughs on every hearth...and, well, I mostly want to cry.

So I walk gently through the days.  I negotiate the emotional expectations to the present reality every day. I remember to sleep and eat. I cling to time to be still and know God...not the babe in the manger, but the Holy Parent who loves me. And, I try to be eager in my resolve to return all kindness with kindness - hoping, ultimately, that goodness will grow beyond grumpiness.

But I find people are generally grumpy this time of year.

"Wanna bag for this?"
"Really?  We haven't had that for two weeks."
"Uh, yeah, you too (have a nice day). Next."
"No, you can't return that without a receipt.  Next." 

Finally this week, I made a transaction with someone who smiled and said with cheerful authenticity:  "Thank you.  Merry Christmas.  Have a great day."

It didn't happen at the upscale kitchen gadget shop, not at the all-natural-eco-friendly retailer, not even at the bookstore where I was purchasing books about saving the world one school at a time. 

It came from the toothless, shivering, under dressed-for-the-weather man standing on the corner near my house with a sign that read, "Good Karma for you.  Anything helps."  I gave him one dollar.  One measly dollar.  And I said, "I hope you have a warm place to go to soon." 

He was cheerful.  He was grateful.  He said, "Thank you for caring, m'am.  Thank you.  Merry Christmas."  And as I drove away, he smiled, waved, and shouted,  "Have a great day!" 

I now have a stack of dollar bills in my car.  It's my investment in Christmas sanity.

To those among us who need so little from us to be gracious and kind this holiday season...
Thank you.

You have increased my joy and made me mindful of goodness in the crazy world that is Christmas. 



Anonymous said...

Thanks for the reminder of what it takes to have a greatful day. A stranger reminded me of this last week when I ran to pick up a last minute burger & onion ring order at Whataburger. When I got to the window, the clerk told me my order had been paid for by the person in the car in front of me. He then handed me a business card which spoke of spreading random acts of kindness. So now I get to pass on the kindness to someone else.

Mimi Meredith said...

So glad I stumbled across this blog! What a great and perfectly times post. Here's to little bits of peace tucked into our days and the grace that whispers the reminder to stop and see them.

gay said...

Great way to remind all of us what it's all about.